How Coaching Helps with Deconstructing… 

When we think about the word “deconstruction” in relation to faith and spirituality, it’s easy to focus on the negative connotation of tearing down or destroying. As Andrew Choi points out in his article Is Deconstruction Biblical (2022), the term “deconstruction” can be problematic if it results in spiritual chaos or nihilism. But with the necessary support, like a great coaching alliance, it can actually become a very positive experience that results in deep personal growth and a renewed sense of meaning and purpose. Let me explain. 

Anyone who has ever embarked on the soul-shaking journey of deconstruction knows how confusing, sometimes terrifying, and always isolating it can be. It is a huge challenge to persevere in the journey and hold hope for new and beautiful discoveries, especially among all the disappointing relics of tradition and toxic systems. That’s where a gifted coach can create a safe and supportive environment for someone to explore their doubts, fears, and uncertainties without criticism, condemnation, or judgement. A coach also does this without presenting some illusive “right” answer.  

A wise coach will also provide perspective and clarity. It’s normal to feel triggered by past spiritual trauma or distress. Skilled coaches know how to recognize this in a client and are able to give perspective when the struggle feels overwhelming. They can also help the client keep moving forward rather than being mired in the past.  

An essential element of deconstruction is the necessary dismantling of old beliefs, but this can be scary for many people. An experienced coach is a safe guide in this onion-peeling process, gently helping clients explore their personal values, assumptions, and core beliefs by asking powerful questions and offering vital feedback. 

Through the process of deconstruction, coaching can help clients become more self-aware, identify and challenge limiting beliefs, and develop a greater sense of self-acceptance. This can lead the client to more clarity, confidence, and a deep sense of inner peace. Once clients have gained greater insight and perspective around their faith deconstruction, coaching can be helpful in setting goals and taking action to create a life based on their evolving beliefs and values. 

As you can see, coaching can be a powerful tool to help individuals navigate the complex and often challenging process of faith deconstruction. By creating a safe, supportive environment, providing perspective, and encouraging self-awareness and goal setting, coaching can support individuals in courageously examining their faith beliefs and systems honestly and ultimately living a more authentic and fulfilling life.